Reparenting the Inner Child

From the "Becoming a Better Parent" Series

Parenting is a journey that challenges us to grow, heal, and evolve. It’s not just about teaching our children how to navigate life—it’s also about addressing the parts of ourselves that need nurturing, understanding, and love. In this enlightening conversation with Erin Wallace, a Universal Hermetic Kabbalah teacher, Senior Guide, Healer and Teacher in the Modern Mystery School, we delve into the transformative process of healing the inner child and how reparenting ourselves can positively impact our children, relationships, and lives.

Reparenting the Inner Child: A Key to Healing and Growth

Erin beautifully explains that many of our challenges as adults stem from wounds carried by our inner child. These wounds often form during childhood when we experience hurt, fear, or insecurity, and they shape the way we respond to the world.

“When we’re triggered as adults, it’s often our inner child or even our inner teenager reacting,” Erin shares. “This part of us feels stuck in the past, as though it’s still in survival mode. The key to healing is realizing that we’re no longer in those situations—we’re adults now, with the ability to create safety and love for ourselves.”

Reparenting the inner child involves stepping into the role of a nurturing, compassionate parent for ourselves. It’s about pausing when we’re triggered, connecting with the wounded part of us, and offering it reassurance and love.

What Does It Mean to Reparent Ourselves?

Reparenting is an act of self-responsibility and self-love. Erin explains, “As adults, we are now responsible for our inner child. Our parents may not have been perfect, and they may not have given us everything we needed, but now it’s our turn to step into that role and provide the care and support our inner child deserves.”

This process involves recognizing the survival mechanisms we developed as children—whether it was withdrawing, people-pleasing, or perfectionism—and understanding that these patterns no longer serve us. By addressing these wounds and offering our inner child the safety and love it craves, we can break free from limiting beliefs and behaviors.

Practical Steps to Heal the Inner Child

Erin offers practical advice for beginning the journey of reparenting:

1. Pause and Connect: When you feel triggered, take a moment to pause and connect with the part of yourself that’s reacting. Ask, How are you little one?, notice How old is this part of you? What does it need right now?

2. Offer Reassurance: Speak to your inner child with kindness and compassion. Let it know that you’re there for it and that it’s safe.

3. Build a Relationship: Reparenting is an ongoing process. Take time regularly to check in with your inner child, offering it love and support.

4. Release Judgment: Often, our inner child is afraid of us because we’re so hard on ourselves. Practice self-compassion and remind yourself that it’s okay to make mistakes.

   
   

Overcoming Resistance to Inner Child Work

For many, connecting with the inner child can feel uncomfortable or even scary. Erin acknowledges this resistance, explaining, “At first, it’s hard to face the wounded parts of ourselves. There’s often pain, shame, or rejection tied to these parts, and it can feel overwhelming. But this resistance is normal—it’s part of the process.”

She encourages us to view inner child work as a shortcut to healing. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. When you develop a loving relationship with your inner child, you become "bulletproof". You’re no longer affected by external judgments or triggers because you’ve created a solid foundation of self-love and acceptance.

The Ripple Effect of Healing the Inner Child

Reparenting ourselves doesn’t just transform our inner world—it also has a profound impact on our relationships, especially with our children.

When we heal our inner child, we model self-love, compassion, and emotional resilience for our children, Erin explains. They learn through who we are, not just what we say. By showing up as authentic, aligned individuals, we create a safe and nurturing environment where they can thrive.

This healing work also extends to other relationships. Erin shares how her own journey has helped her create healthier dynamics with her parents, students, and peers.

When we heal the wounds of the past, we stop projecting them onto others. We’re able to see people for who they truly are, rather than through the lens of our own pain.

Breaking Generational Patterns

One of the most powerful aspects of reparenting is its ability to break generational cycles of pain and dysfunction. Erin highlights how ancestral patterns—such as scarcity mindsets or unresolved trauma—can be passed down through families.

By taking responsibility for our healing, we stop these patterns from being handed down to our children. We create a new timeline of love, abundance, and self-awareness for future generations.

The Role of Spiritual Tools in Inner Child Healing

The Modern Mystery School offers powerful tools and teachings to support inner child healing. Erin shares how practices like the Life Activation and Empower Thyself Program have been instrumental in her own journey.

These tools provide light and clarity, helping us uncover the hidden wounds and patterns that hold us back. They also offer practical techniques for protecting our energy, raising our vibration, and aligning with our true selves. With the light of Initiation we are able to see our gifts and talents and use them to create more fulfilling and joyful life.

For Erin, these teachings have been life-changing. "Before I began this work, I felt stuck in cycles of projecting and judgment. Now, I approach challenges with a sense of curiosity and empowerment, always asking, ‘What’s the solution?"

A Vision for the Future

As we heal our inner child and step into our authentic selves, we create a ripple effect that extends beyond our families. Erin envisions a world where adults take responsibility for their healing, creating a collective shift toward joy, love, and connection.

“Imagine a world where we’re no longer stuck in the loops of the past,” Erin says. “Where we’re free to create, laugh, and play, like the golden child within us. This is the vision of Shambhala—peace on earth, heaven on earth, and the knowledge of ourselves as divine beings.”

Final Thoughts: Choosing Healing for Yourself and Your Children

Reparenting the inner child is a courageous and transformative journey. It’s not always easy, but it’s one of the most rewarding paths we can walk. By healing ourselves, we not only create a better life for ourselves but also pave the way for our children to grow up in a world of love, compassion, and possibility.

If you’re ready to begin your journey of inner child healing, I invite you to explore the Life Activation to the Empower Thyself Program. The path of progression and the ancient tools of empowerment provide the light and healing needed to transform your life from the inside out.

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Let’s heal, grow, and create a brighter future—together.